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What is parental “alienation”?
What is parental “alienation”? Alienation, often referred to as refuse/resist, is an array of generally recognized symptoms and/or behaviors discernible in family members. Recognition of associated symptoms and behaviors has been on the rise, and the outcome for children can be very poor, especially as children get older. Reliance on litigation or individual therapy has…
Embracing Fairness In Your NJ Divorce
I know the NJ divorce process has many emotions, complexities, and uncertainties. As you start to unpack the changes, it is only natural to feel the urge to “win” the battle and emerge victorious. However, divorce is not a competition to win. In pursuing genuine healing and a fresh start, there lies a better path…
Putting Your Kids First in Your Divorce
How can you help your children manage your divorce? Put your kids first by committing to peace, negotation and fairness. As parents, we find ourselves grappling with numerous challenges as we divorce. However, it is in the best interest of our children to put differences aside and anchor the divorce in keeping the family relationships…
Knowing How You Want To Divorce Determines Where You Can Go
Divorce decisions should only be made once you know how you are going to go through the process. In a quote attributed to the late Yogi Berra, a hall-of-fame catcher who played for the New York Yankees, he tells us that “You’ve got to be very careful if you don’t know where you are going…
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Legal Separation in NJ
If your marriage hits a rough patch, or there have been years of unhappiness, you may decide it is time to move forward. And if you are not ready or willing to start the divorce process, a formal separation may be a good option. Here in NJ, we do not have a legal separation process…
Court and Your Divorce
Although I am a strong advocate for a process of amicable negotiation, there are circumstances when going to court is the best option. For example: An uncooperative counterpart – when a court is necessary to compel a party to supply information that he/she is holding back, or a party refuses to, or is unlikely to…
Post Judgment Modifications
Post-divorce modifications may become necessary due to various changes in circumstances that affect child custody, parenting time, child support, or spousal support. These modifications help ensure that the existing arrangements continue to meet the evolving needs and circumstances of the individuals involved. When negotiating post-divorce modifications, the couple must maintain open and respectful communication. They…
Prenuptial Agreements in NJ
While most believe that a prenuptial agreement is a contract to protect your finances should you divorce, here in NJ, a prenup can be much more valuable to you as a couple. When I work with clients to negotiate their prenups, we discuss the assets they bring into the marriage and how they want to…
NJ Divorce: What to do With Your House
Many parents start the divorce process by declaring that they would like to keep the marital home after the divorce. Even with the strongest of financial positions, sometimes it is best to wait to make any significant decisions until after you have all the information to consider the multiple issues and possibilities for settlement. A…
How do your bills get paid during your divorce?
When going through a peaceful divorce, it is important to establish a clear plan for handling legal, household, and childcare expenses. Addressing these financial matters proactively can help minimize conflict and maintain a cooperative environment during the divorce process. In this blog, we will discuss how to handle paychecks, the option of maintaining a joint…
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How to Hire the Right NJ Divorce Attorney
How to hire the right divorce attorney? The decision to hire the right NJ divorce attorney starts once you and your spouse decide on how you will divorce. This means that if you are committed to respectful communications, prioritizing the needs of the children, creative solutions and preserving relationships, then you want an attorney committed…
The Divorce Process in NJ
How do you start the divorce process here in New Jersey? A peaceful divorce does not start with one partner filing paperwork and serving the other. Hiring a divorce attorney and surprising your spouse by serving paperwork is never a good idea. After years of helping clients through their divorce journey, I have learned that…